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Wednesday
Jan302008

Sweethearts

sweethearts.jpgBy Sara Zarr
Official release date February 1, 2008
(but already in many stores now)
 
Reviewed by Leigh Leveen

Sweethearts is a heart-wrenching novel written by National Bok Award finalist Sara Zarr.  It is filled with serious and current themes of teenage life – the search for identity, the need for friends, the disappearance of true friendship.  I found this book compelling.  And I also found it intense.  The novel’s protagonist, Jenna, is full of life, as well as insecurity and hope.  She is a heroine who lives in the real world we exist in, not the nether world of fiction meant to be read only on the beach.   

Jennifer Harris is an overweight, insecure 9 year old when the story opens.  She befriends Cameron, another school outcast, and together they fill in each others’ blank spots.  Until Cameron disappears one day and Jennifer never hears from him again.  Eight years later, Jennifer had morphed into Jenna Vaughn, the first name a purposeful change on her part to leave behind the 9-year old she was, and the last name a gift from her new step-father.  She has moved house and schools, and now plays the part of the popular girl, which includes a boyfriend, a thin body, and a posse of friends.  She remains compassionate, but is lost about her own true self – where does the old Jenna fit into her new life she wonders?  And would anyone she knows now like the old her, and if not, then are they really her friends?  These questions plague Jenna throughout the novel, and it is her self-discovery that makes Jenna into the heroine she rightly is.

Cameron returns from a long lost absence out of the blue.  He comes back into Jenna’s life like a full force tornado.  She is over-whelmed with her feelings for him, and with the memories of their shared abuse at the hands of his father.  The journey Jenna takes to meld the old her and the new her into one self is often sad, often hard to read, and most definitely true to life.  

Adolescence is filled with the things that we do to define ourselves.  This novel reminds me of how often those attempts are wrong decisions made for the right reasons in the minds of teenagers.  The themes are decidedly adult – identity, self-worth, abandonment, and child abuse.  These are the things our teenagers are thinking about and living through, no doubt, but they are also themes and issues, which left without an adult figure with whom to discuss it all, could lead to misguided attempts at self-discovery.  Jenna’s childhood self stole, overate, and lied.  She spent a lot of time alone while her single mother worked two jobs.  She was harassed by her peers, and had no one to turn to.  She suffered child abuse, and watched her only friend suffer it constantly, and was not to talk to anyone about what had happened.  That is an intense set of circumstances to read about.

The world we live in asks our children to grow up early; it is a common complaint among parents I know.  But I believe it is a disservice to ignore the reality around them.  It is our job as parents to walk with them on this journey until they have very solid sea legs.  Sweethearts is the perfect novel for mothers and daughters to read together and it offers a perfect chance to walk with your teenager hand in hand over some pretty rocky territory.    

I give the novel 8 binkies.  

Sunday
Oct282007

Teen Manners: From Malls to Meals to Messaging and Beyond

TeenManners_tn.jpgTeen Manners: From Malls to Meals to Messaging and Beyond
Authors: Cindy Post Senning and Peggy Post
HarperCollins Children’s Books, a division of HarperCollins Publishers
134 pages
 
Reviewed by Isabella Lucero
 
Teen Manners is a guidebook of etiquette written for a teen audience. Sticky, as well as humdrum, everyday situations of etiquette are proposed and then efficiently answered.
 
It is both sensible and practical advice. “Etiquette can shape the way you interact with people and create the mood for your day.”  Something moody teenagers should take to heart. Additionally, it has some meaningful information with resonance. “Once trust is lost, a relationship is diminished, and it takes ages to rebuild.”
 
Teen Manners is a useful guide for teens “to act in ways that are respectful, considerate, and honest, or not”, and is broken up into sections on building and strengthening every relationship, keeping in touch through email, letters, the phone, etc., the manners and art of mealtime (a good brush up for anyone at your dinner table), rules and regulations for high school, getting a job or getting into college, social savvy, and even mall manners and driver’s education.
 
The tone is straightforward, easy to understand, and a quick read. I read it on a bumpy airplane ride from the O.C. to Las Vegas.
 
A lot of it was common sense to me; however, I did learn some new things. For example if you are introducing a younger person to an older person, you say the older person’s name first, which I did not know!
 
I am most curious to know what teens would think of this book, especially the teens who are in need of this sort of information. I have plans to pass it on to both of my teens. I did notice my son skimming through it, and would just love to know what he thinks, although we had no time for such obsessing, as he needed to get his homework done.    
 
I would rate this book very highly for teens as the teen years are a difficult time for many and any guidance of how to negotiate this rapidly evolving era is much needed (the etiquette for texting, for example, which seems to drive all parents crazy).  I give it an 8 and a must read for the teen audience, especially the moody ones.
 
Isabella Lucero is a writer, mother, cook, and gardener living in Tucson, Arizona.